How Therapy Helps When You feel stuck
Sometimes people come to me and say, “I don’t even know what’s wrong—I just feel stuck.” And let me tell you something: that’s more common than you think. Therapy when you feel stuck, might be the one thing that can boost you to find yourself.
You don’t need a crisis or a diagnosis to go to therapy. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Sometimes all you know is that you’re overwhelmed, unmotivated, emotionally flat, or constantly on edge and nothing really explains it. That’s where therapy can begin.
In this post, I’ll walk you through what it means to feel emotionally stuck, why that feeling matters, and how therapy especially when personalized can help you move through the fog.
What Does “Feeling Stuck” Actually Mean?
Feeling stuck can look like:
- Losing interest in things you used to enjoy
- Constantly feeling tired or burnt out
- Being “fine” on the outside but emotionally numb inside
- Overthinking everything, yet unable to take action
- A vague sense that something’s wrong, but no clear idea what
It’s not always depression or anxiety in the clinical sense. It’s more like a disconnect..between who you are and how you’re living.
When you’re stuck, you might find yourself asking questions like:
- Why am I so overwhelmed by the smallest things?
- Why do I feel like I’m just going through the motions?
- Why can’t I figure out what I need?
These questions matter. They’re your nervous system’s way of saying: Hey, something’s not right. Pay attention.
What Causes This Stuckness?
There are many possible roots, and they’re often layered:
1. Unprocessed Stress or Trauma
Even if you can’t pinpoint one “big” traumatic event, your body may be carrying years of emotional weight-criticism, abandonment, shame, pressure to perform, emotional neglect. These are often overlooked, but they shape how we show up in the world.
2. Burnout and Overload
Living in survival mode or pushing through stress, being constantly “on,” and ignoring your own needs—can flatten your emotional landscape over time.
3. Disconnection From Self
You might be so focused on managing life, work, or others’ needs that you’ve lost touch with your own. Therapy helps rebuild that connection.
4. Old Beliefs Running the Show
Sometimes it’s the invisible scripts: “I’m not enough,” “I have to be perfect,” “I can’t need anyone”—that keep us stuck in loops we don’t even realize we’re in.
Why Therapy Works..Even If You Don’t Know Where to Start
You don’t need to show up to therapy with answers. You just need to show up honestly.
Therapy gives you the space to:
- Slow down and actually listen to yourself
- Explore what your mind and body are trying to tell you
- Untangle emotions that have been buried or avoided
- Name the patterns and beliefs that are shaping your experience
When we can finally see what’s going on underneath the stuckness, we can start to move through it.
My Approach: Personalized, Integrative, and Rooted in Safety
In my work with clients, I never use a one-size-fits-all approach. Everyone’s nervous system, history, and emotional wiring is different.
That’s why I integrate tools like:
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): to help you identify and challenge unhelpful thought patterns.
- EMDR Therapy: to access and reprocess the deeper emotional blocks or past experiences your mind hasn’t fully resolved.
- Sensory Motor Psychotherapy (SMP): to help your body process stored tension and trauma in a gentle, grounded way.
These methods work together to help you feel safe, seen, and supported so we can work through what’s underneath, at your pace.
Online Therapy: Accessible and Effective
If you’re wondering whether therapy works online..the answer is yes. I’ve worked with clients from all over the world who’ve experienced profound breakthroughs from the comfort of their homes.
Sometimes being in your own space actually helps your nervous system relax, making therapy more effective.
Whether you’re dealing with emotional burnout, unprocessed trauma, or just that nagging feeling that something’s off, online therapy makes healing more accessible than ever. Online therapy when you feel stuck can be very helpful to help “bring” back that spark.
You Don’t Need to Have It All Figured Out
One of the biggest lies we’re told is that we need to wait until we’re in crisis to get help. But often, the best time to start therapy is when you’re feeling unsure, flat, or disconnected.
Because that stuckness? It’s not failure. It’s a signal.
A signal that your mind and body are craving something more..more alignment, more peace, more connection.
Ready to Take the First Step?
I offer a free consultation to help you figure out if therapy is right for you and if my approach feels like a good fit. You don’t need to explain everything perfectly or know exactly what’s wrong. You just need to be open to starting.
If you’re tired of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or emotionally disconnected, know this: therapy can help.
Not with quick fixes or empty advice but with real tools, deep understanding, and the kind of support that meets you right where you are. Therapy when you feel stuck is key.
You deserve to feel like yourself again. Let’s begin from wherever you are.
Online Therapy: My Take as a Therapist
A few years ago, if you had asked me whether online therapy could be as effective as in-person sessions, I probably would have been skeptical. Like many of my colleagues, I believed that true therapeutic connection required being in the same room. Then came the COVID-19 pandemic.
Almost overnight, everything changed. In-person therapy became impossible, and we were forced to transition to virtual sessions. It wasn’t just about adapting—it was about survival, for both therapists and clients. At first, many of us worried: Would the connection be the same? Would clients feel safe opening up online? Could we still do deep trauma work like EMDR effectively?
What happened next surprised me.
From Skeptic to Believer: The Online Therapy Shift
Like most therapists, I went into online therapy cautiously. We had no choice but to learn how to adapt our techniques to a virtual setting. My colleagues and I retrained in online therapy modalities, including how to conduct EMDR, CBT, and Sensory Motor Psychotherapy (SMP) remotely. We learned how to use digital tools to facilitate the same deep emotional processing that we used in the office.
At first, some sessions felt a little awkward. Would the screen create a barrier? Would clients be able to focus? But session after session, I noticed something interesting:
Clients were not just adjusting to online therapy—they were thriving in it.
Why Online Therapy Works So Well
As the months went on, I realized that online therapy wasn’t just a substitute—it was a powerful alternative that many clients preferred. Here’s why:
1. Comfort & Emotional Safety 🏡
- Many clients feel more relaxed opening up from their own space.
- No anxiety about walking into a therapist’s office.
- No fear of running into someone they know in a waiting room.
2. Time-Saving & Convenience ⏳
- No commuting, no traffic, no parking stress.
- Easier to fit therapy into a busy schedule.
- More consistency because fewer cancellations happen due to logistics.
3. Effective for Trauma Work (Yes, Even EMDR!) 🧠
- I was initially skeptical about doing EMDR therapy online, but it works just as well.
- We use digital tools for bilateral stimulation, which is key for processing trauma.
- Clients feel safer processing trauma from their own space, which can actually enhance the effectiveness of therapy.
4. Access to Therapy for More People 🌍
- Clients who live in remote areas or don’t have local access to specialized therapy can now get the help they need.
- Therapy is available for expats, frequent travelers, or people with mobility limitations.
- The stigma of “going to therapy” is reduced when people can do it from home.
What Happened When the Offices Reopened?
After nearly two years of exclusively online therapy, offices reopened, and we expected many clients to return. I was prepared to balance both in-person and virtual sessions.
But then something shocking happened:
Of the 40 clients I was seeing online, only 4 chose to come back to in-person sessions.
That’s right—90% of my clients preferred to continue online. And this trend wasn’t unique to me. Many therapists saw the same shift.
Why? Because by then, people had realized that the benefits of online therapy far outweighed any initial skepticism. The flexibility, comfort, and effectiveness made it the preferred choice for most.
When Online Therapy Might Not Be the Best Fit
While online therapy works for most people, there are a few cases where in-person therapy might be a better option:
❌ Severe mental health crises – If someone is experiencing active psychosis, suicidal thoughts requiring immediate intervention, or severe dissociation, in-person or inpatient care may be safer. ❌ Lack of privacy at home – If a client has no safe, private space to speak freely, therapy can be less effective. ❌ Internet or technology issues – Poor connectivity can disrupt sessions, though this is usually a fixable problem.
For most other situations, online therapy is not just “good enough”—it’s just as powerful as in-person therapy.
How I Tailor Online Therapy to Each Client
One of the things I love about online therapy is that it allows for even more customization. Every client is different, and I ensure that therapy is structured in a way that fits their needs. Here’s how:
✅ For trauma work – I use EMDR and EMDR 2.0 with bilateral stimulation tools (not limited to bilateral) to help clients reprocess distressing memories safely.
✅ For anxiety & stress management – I integrate CBT techniques along with mindfulness practices that clients can use between sessions.
✅ For emotional regulation – I incorporate Sensory Motor Psychotherapy (SMP) to help clients reconnect with their bodies and process emotions more effectively.
Therapy isn’t just about talking—it’s about experiencing real change, and online therapy allows that change to happen in the most convenient and accessible way possible.
So, Does Online Therapy Work? My Final Take
Looking back, I realize how much my perspective on online therapy has evolved. What started as a necessary shift during the pandemic turned into a game-changer for mental health care.
✅ It’s effective. Clients make the same (if not better) progress as in-person therapy. ✅ It’s convenient. No travel time, no stress, just easy access to support. ✅ It’s preferred. 90% of my clients chose to stay online even after offices reopened.
If you’re wondering whether online therapy is right for you, I offer a free consultation so we can talk about your needs and see if it’s a good fit.
Healing and growth don’t have to happen in an office. They can happen right where you are, here and now. 💙